Monday, September 14, 2009

A Message to MTV Viewers!

The decision to share my polyamorous life with millions of people on MTV is scary because being non-monogamous is taboo. I don’t think polyamory is right for everyone, and I respect monogamous relationships, but I’ve found that having more than one partner is really right for me. I am telling my story so that young people will realize that there are many choices in relationships, love, and family style. Breaking the rules about what love should look like and sharing that with the world is risky, but being fearlessly open to the world also feels incredibly freeing!

When I was a teenager in a small town, I remember seeing lesbians on television and realizing there were other people like me in the world. I hope with this show we have helped young people realize that monogamy and marriage are choices and that there are other options for creating healthy relationships. I urge all of you to remember that you are independent and powerful. You have an identity beyond having a boyfriend or girlfriend, so stay true to yourself and never be afraid to speak up about what you want.

If you are curious to learn more about relationship choices and polyamory –join the club! If you join my mailing list at, I will send a list of suggested books and websites, a ‘Best Relationship for You’ Quiz, blog entries updating everyone on my relationship with Kerry, and an invitation to a free phone workshop with me and Kerry so you can ask us questions over the phone from anywhere in the country.

I look forward to staying in touch!

1 comment:

  1. I am really pleased that you did this. Artists have traditionally used their craft to alter public perception, something that I am also trying to do. Thank you so much for publicizing your situation! I will be watching your work. :-)